Does your child refuse to pee and poop inside the house? In our Facebook group we often hear from parents that are concerned that their child seems to not understand where it’s OK to poo or wee and are worried about reinforcing or breaking these habits. It’s not unusual that children should display a preference about where they feel comfortable toileting but how should parents address it?
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We understand that child sex abuse may be difficult or triggering for parents to think about but we feel it important to cover this topic. If your child is being sexually abused it may show through their emotions or behaviour, especially when potty training. So what are the more common signs and what can you do if you are worried? Rebecca invited child sex abuse specialist Heather Bacon to help guide you through this difficult topic.
What’s the best way to approach potty training a neurodivergent child (with developmental delay, learning disabilities or autistic spectrum disorders?) What about children who struggle to communicate or are non-verbal? Should you use a different process or follow mainstream potty training approaches? This blog explores the answers to these important questions. Continue reading
Did your child master potty training but lately has regressed? Potty training regression is common and is often caused by your child feeling overwhelmed, insecure or needing more attention. Perhaps there was a stressful life event, change or situation that may have preceded the regression. Whatever the cause, the solution lies in connecting with your child. Continue reading
Your child is telling you she wants to be nappy free at night says Rebecca Mottram.
My 20-month-old is doing amazingly well with potty training. She’s had several dry days, almost a week of dry naps (2ish hours) I really shouldn’t complain, but… she asks to go several times AFTER we put her to bed. She’ll pee a decent amount before we put on PJs, and then want to go again 20 minutes later. She only ever has a few drops, but she’s so proud. And I’m SO TIRED. She’s still in a diaper for sleep, so she’s not worried about an *accident* really, I think it’s partially a stalling bedtime tactic. I don’t want to tell her to just go in her diaper, but I don’t want to get her up twelve times a night to go, either. It’s affecting her sleep but she still wakes up with the birds, so she’s grumpy. How can I encourage her to hold it without dismissing her instincts?
What is the best way to approach potty training twins or multiples? Should you potty train them together or separately? This post will give you the tools that you need to decide which approach is best for you and your family.
When your child is pre-verbal, they can use baby sign language (Makaton, ASL/American sign language or BSL /British sign language) to communicate that they need to go potty. Here’s how to introduce baby signing for potty learning.
Should you use rewards such as sweets or sticker charts whilst potty training your child? Here’s why external motivators aren’t as helpful as you might think.
Some children are terrified of using the potty or the toilet. Parents from all around the world come to me, struggling to understand what they can do to resolve what can often seem like a completely irrational fear.
Whatever has led to this situation, here are 5 gentle solutions that can get your child back on track with their potty learning journey. So take a deep breath, let go of that frustration, don’t go spending your money on sticker charts or talking potties, we’ve got you.
Parenting can require more patience and empathy than we ever imagined says Rebecca Mottram. Your daughters potty refusal means she needs your help to be in control and find the solution.
My daughter is 17mo and normally mastering the potty well. She has become very verbal and often tells me when she has to go or goes to the potty by herself. However, there is a part I’m not proud of. I know she has to wee when 3 hours have passed without one so I gently remind her to go. I tell her we’re going to the potty, she can choose her favorite book to read or game to play with me, we will call daddy after the wee… I let her know that it needs to be done and I give her lots of motivation. This is where procrastination normally starts. She either completely refuses the potty or sits there for 20 min. and does nothing. I then give up and go to another room to give her privacy. She will follow me a moment later and within 2 min. will do a massive pee on the floor while looking straight at me. Nobody can tell me these are accidents. She is doing it on purpose to show me she decides and I have no idea why as she knows perfectly well where pee needs to go.
Tonight I lost it and yelled at her, after many incidents. I was so angry that I had spent 30 min. on the potty with her with no success and then had lots of cleaning to do too. Not my best moment. I want to understand this kind of behaviour. Is this normal toddler stubbornness or how can I make sure she understands that peeing on the floor is totally not acceptable when done on purpose? This happened 3 hours ago and I’m still raging! Continue reading