Between the ages of 0-5 years, children are driven by 3 key developmental goals: 1. Pleasing you and receiving your praise and approval, 2. Growing up and, 3. Being able to do things on their own. These powerful drivers are influencing your child’s interactions, preferences, relationships, choices, identity, self-esteem and basically everything in between. Knowing how to tap into these drivers can make potty training an easier and more positive experience for you. Here’s how. Continue reading
There are alternatives to the naked method if you think this isn’t right for your child says Rebecca Mottram
There are so many different ways to parent that chances are, part of your experience will involve explaining your parenting choices to someone else. Due to the power of advertising by nappy companies, helping your baby to use the potty before they are well into their toddler years is no longer the norm in our culture. As a result, you might encounter at best curiosity and at worst concern from your partner, friends or family. (or if you are a celebrity – from the mainstream media!) Don’t worry – we can help you to navigate this.
Have you noticed the difference good preparation makes when it comes to transitioning your child from one activity to another? There are fewer tantrums and more co-operation. Good preparation is also at the heart of ensuring a good transition between nappies and no nappies and helps you and your child work in partnership when potty training. Here’s how to achieve it.
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I’m sure many people would find comparing their child to a dog somewhat strange, but their needs are not so different when it comes to toilet training. So why do we approach the two so differently? Continue reading
Your child is telling you she wants to be nappy free at night says Rebecca Mottram.
Dear Rebecca,
My 20-month-old is doing amazingly well with potty training. She’s had several dry days, almost a week of dry naps (2ish hours) I really shouldn’t complain, but… she asks to go several times AFTER we put her to bed. She’ll pee a decent amount before we put on PJs, and then want to go again 20 minutes later. She only ever has a few drops, but she’s so proud. And I’m SO TIRED. She’s still in a diaper for sleep, so she’s not worried about an *accident* really, I think it’s partially a stalling bedtime tactic. I don’t want to tell her to just go in her diaper, but I don’t want to get her up twelve times a night to go, either. It’s affecting her sleep but she still wakes up with the birds, so she’s grumpy. How can I encourage her to hold it without dismissing her instincts?
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What is the best way to approach potty training twins or multiples? Should you potty train them together or separately? This post will give you the tools that you need to decide which approach is best for you and your family.
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When your child is pre-verbal, they can use baby sign language (Makaton, ASL/American sign language or BSL /British sign language) to communicate that they need to go potty. Here’s how to introduce baby signing for potty learning.
Some children are terrified of using the potty or the toilet. Parents from all around the world come to me, struggling to understand what they can do to resolve what can often seem like a completely irrational fear.
Whatever has led to this situation, here are 5 gentle solutions that can get your child back on track with their potty learning journey. So take a deep breath, let go of that frustration, don’t go spending your money on sticker charts or talking potties, we’ve got you.
Parenting can require more patience and empathy than we ever imagined says Rebecca Mottram. Your daughter’s potty refusal means she needs your help to be in control and find the solution.
Dear Rebecca,
My daughter is 17mo and normally mastering the potty well. She has become very verbal and often tells me when she has to go or goes to the potty by herself. However, there is a part I’m not proud of. I know she has to wee when 3 hours have passed without one so I gently remind her to go. I tell her we’re going to the potty, she can choose her favorite book to read or game to play with me, we will call daddy after the wee… I let her know that it needs to be done and I give her lots of motivation. This is where procrastination normally starts. She either completely refuses the potty or sits there for 20 min. and does nothing. I then give up and go to another room to give her privacy. She will follow me a moment later and within 2 min. will do a massive pee on the floor while looking straight at me. Nobody can tell me these are accidents. She is doing it on purpose to show me she decides and I have no idea why as she knows perfectly well where pee needs to go.
Tonight I lost it and yelled at her, after many incidents. I was so angry that I had spent 30 min. on the potty with her with no success and then had lots of cleaning to do too. Not my best moment. I want to understand this kind of behaviour. Is this normal toddler stubbornness or how can I make sure she understands that peeing on the floor is totally not acceptable when done on purpose? This happened 3 hours ago and I’m still raging! Continue reading
