Just like when your baby is hungry, tired or just needs a cuddle, you can learn to recognise when your baby needs to eliminate. Young babies (under 3 months) often give the strongest elimination communication cues and signals, but these can change over time. Some babies give very subtle signals, in which case the timing method may be most useful. Learn about signals and timing here.
Crying , fussing, arching away during feeding, squealing, squirming, going still / staring into space, pulling your hair/grabbing at you, slapping themselves on the body, farting, bearing down.
Older babies and toddlers:
Pulling on your clothes, leg, crawling towards you as if to be picked up, seeking privacy, crotch grabbing, ‘dancing’ e.g. shifting weight one foot to another, squirming in your lap, stopping playing, sitting or crouching down, playing near or pointing and going towards toilet/potty, pulling on nappy/trousers/skirt/pants, farting, bearing down (the poo face).
How to spot your baby’s cues
Some cues are obvious, others are subtle. Many babies seemingly give no cues or signals at all. The younger a baby is, the stronger the signal usually is, but this can change as they develop, or if they have been using nappies for a long time (especially disposables which can dull the senses over time). So this is where a little nappy free time will help you connect with what your baby might be telling you. If after trying this, you are still not confident in knowing when your baby will eliminate, you can use the timing method. In fact, using a combination of signals and timing is works very well.
Understanding and using timing to your advantage
You are likely to have success if your offer a potty when burping, after a feed, on waking, when changing their nappy, before a bath. Babies often go when you take the nappy off so this is a great time to try. Remember, that like cues, frequency of elimination can change over time. For example, young babies can go very frequently – even every 10 minutes, and the time between eliminations usually increases as they grow.
A little nappy free time, or close observation of your baby can help you become familiar with your baby’s timings. Once you understand how frequently they go, you can be ready with a potty to catch the next one when you think it’s coming.
Learn more about how to help your baby communicate with baby sign language